When I was growing up, I was shy, introverted, didn’t have many friends and always worried that I would say and do the wrong things. You know, those things that would make me look stupid, hurt someone’s feelings or get me in trouble. I kept to myself a lot, didn’t talk much in school and basically felt that I wasn’t good enough.
My daddy was in the army and we moved every 3 years until I was in junior high school. Do you know what it’s like to have to make new friends every few years? It can be agonizingly difficult. Sometimes daddy would be gone for a year, like when I was born he was in Korea. When I was in 7th grade, he spent another year overseas. And as a senior in high school, my daddy was in Viet Nam. Other times he would be gone for weeks while out on maneuvers. Daddy was also the Sergeant Major over the Military Police on Ft. Hood. You would think he would be a strict disciplinarian but he wasn’t, not with his kids. Nope, that went to my mother who had to deal with 5 children while daddy was out of the country, or wherever. My parents did the best they could to instill values in us but one that alluded them was making us, me, feel good enough. This is probably because they had their own baggage to deal with, like we all do. We do what we can to raise our children the best we know how, but many times it seems looking back that what was our best wasn’t really very good. But we try anyway. I mean, how is someone supposed to teach their kids that they are good enough when it’s not inside of them? It turns out to be a vicious cycle of passing down negative beliefs from one generation, to the next and the next.
Marissa Peer is one of the top hypnotherapists in the United Kingdom. Out of all her clients, who are top athletes, royalty and wealthy people, she said that around 95% of them have a belief in an area of their lives that they aren’t good enough. You think money buys you happiness? It doesn’t. There are tons of examples of this. Look at all the rich, famous people you have heard/ read/ know about who can’t seem to hold a relationship together….something’s going on with their unconscious belief system. Feeling not good enough is common in all classes of people: rich, poor, and everywhere in between.
I want to stop this cycle by telling you that you are good enough. No matter what you were told as a child, no matter what your siblings said to you, no matter what your mom, dad, guardian, teachers or anyone said…YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH. Even if this belief has been passed down from generation to generation, you can change it. One way Marissa Peer helps her clients to overcome this devastating belief is by having them post signs all over their houses that say: I am good enough. That way they continually see it, read it and allow it to soak into their conscious and unconscious minds.
You are good enough to do anything: write a book, speak in public, run a race, paint a picture, get your degree, lose 50 pounds. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks or says, you are good enough to do what your heart is calling you to do, no matter how old you are, no matter what excuse you’ve been hiding behind.
You Are Good Enough.
With much love,